Manage Your Feelings during Change – Emerge with New Possibilities.

By Sandy Prock M.Ed., JCTC, Co-Owner of www.ExpertResume.com and www.ExpertExecutiveResume.com

As “Pink”, the pop singer said – “From Heartbreak comes Inspiration”.

Change can feel like a death. The stages of grief (denial, anger, bargaining,depression and finally acceptance) are normal. Embrace change. Embrace your feelings. Make change your ally and friend and you will discover new strengths within yourself. Change and challenges can bring out our best, including the discovery of new potential, both within ourselves and in our careers. One key is to learn to manage difficult and sometimes tumultuous feelings.

Tools to manage your difficult emotions during times of change:

• Allow yourself 15-30 minutes a day to feel your feelings (grief, anger, sadness).

o If you feel like grieving for longer-set aside a longer time.

§ When you feel overwhelmed with your feelings:

• Manage your feelings - allow yourself to dive into your feelings at your appointed time.
• Allow your feelings to be, without taking over your whole life.

o If you still feel overwhelmed – Seek Professional help!

§ You are worth it!

• Discover the meaning of your current challenges.

o Ask yourself what you have to learn from this experience.

o Consider your challenge an opportunity for growth.

o Consider change as an opportunity for your new inner genius and greatness to bloom.

• Discover the golden nuggets of meaning within your current feelings.
• Set aside 15-30 minutes to brainstorm ideas.
• Set aside time each day to relax.
• Set aside time to distract yourself. Play, have fun, work, be productive, organize, be with your family and/or friends, and nourish yourself and others.

o When you distract yourself, you allow for creative ideas to emerge.

o Keep a balance.

o Nourish yourself, your family and other relationships.

§ Don’t let stress and worry crowd out important relationships.

o Fun stimulates creative ideas.

o Organizing sets the tone for balance and order.

• Consider new ideas and new opportunities - something you have not thought about before.

o New ideas come in different, sizes, shapes and packages.

o Be open to synchronicity and life’s surprises.

Change

• Most people don’t change unless they have to. Crisis is usually your first stage of change.
• Change can feel like a death. Stages of grief (denial, anger, sadness, bargaining and finally acceptance) are normal. Feeling emotional turmoil is normal.
• After change, comes inspiration and new opportunity.
• When one door closes another door opens, often something even better.
• Sometimes less is more. New and better opportunity comes in many shapes and sizes.
• Be open to what is best for you.
• Be open to the idea that life sometimes has a better idea for you.
• Listen, Observe, Be Aware.
• The only constant in life is – change. Change offers you opportunity for growth into your full potential. Change can be your friend and ally.

As “Pink”, the pop singer said – “From Heartbreak comes Inspiration”.

If a tool resonates, try it. If not try something else. The choice is yours. Hang in there. Embrace change. Be the person you want to be. Land your dream job.

Bob Prock is an award winning resume writer. He won a national resume writing award. If you have any questions about your resume, cover letter or other job search documents, feel free to call Bob at 1-864-292-5288 or email Bob at ExpertResume@yahoo.com

Now is the time to make sure your resume and all of your job search documents make you stand out from the crowd.

Bob and I wish you the best in your job search.

Sandy Prock M.Ed. (Vocational Counseling), JCTC (Job and Career Transition Coach), Co-Owner of www.ExpertResume.com and  www.ExpertExecutiveResume.Com